The Ben Complex
Have you ever felt gutted you missed an oppertunity? To say or do something vital and you missed it because you were too cautious?
No?
I ask because after I failed to act when I felt Ben was flirting, Given another chance I would do it differently but equally sure it would probably just lead to embarrassment anyway. I accept it. I move on.
Though I beat myself up for ages. I made a kind of peace with it; I mean his new boyfriend is so nice, handsome, honest and charming. Pretty perfect for Ben really, so I'm learning to be happy about it. Damn him and his long term relationship material self. LOL.
Ben messaged me on Facebook this morning saying he would be visiting Dave this weekend and asking if I have time to go out with them (me and Dave live in the same city). I agreed, he's never come up here in the middle of the semester. As I went back to my homepage I saw on my news feed:
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Sam
26 February 2010 at 05:52
DO IT.
Well, maybe not lol. These situations are tricky, because if he has rebound sex with you, it might jeopardise chances of a relationship. On the OTHER hand, if you reject his advances at the risk of it leading to rebound sex, he might get really huffy and ignore you anyway.
STUPID PEOPLE.
The decision is yours. You'll be able to read the situation.
(And I know exactly what you mean. I have to get out of the house if I have a missed opportunity, or do SOMETHING to distracted myself or I just go crazy)
lovehugsx
26 February 2010 at 15:22
If he's single now then the God's are working in your favor!!
In an interview Madonna said something in the late 80's that I remember and live by to this day: "Seize the moment. It may never come again."